Either Definite Unconditional Atonement or Universal Conditional Atonement
Many preachers are just not talking about the topic of Jesus dying only for the elect. And since they are not teaching that, they are teaching that Jesus did die for everybody.
If you think that kind of antithesis is unfair, then I will use this analogy: if you can’t go by train (because the train doesn’t go there), you have to go by car, and you can’t go by train and by car at the same time.
If the only kind of atonement revealed in the Bible is definite and effectual (for the sheep, and not for those who will not believe, John 10), then there is no atonement revealed in the Bible for everybody, and you can’t have it both ways.
I have no interest in being rude to anybody, but when it comes to the thing that really matters, the cross and its offense, then I want to take my stand on what the Bible says that cross does. God imputed all the sins of the elect only to Christ.